Someone Pushes Your Buttons - What To Do

When your buttons are pushed, what do you do? You might have pushed somebody else's button, with or without knowing it, what do you do?

Ironically, the button pusher might not be conscious of what he/she is doing. However, in the end the buttons others push belong to you. You are the one, who needs to deal with what comes up. The more you take responsibility for your feelings and reactions, the less the other person can push your buttons. You are in control - not the button pusher.

Everyone experiences having someone snap, seemingly out of nowhere. This transpires when you unconsciously push a button in someone else you did not know was one of his/her buttons. This can occur with a stranger and sometimes with a person you know well and have been close to for many years.

Furthermore, you might have a relationship with someone whose buttons you secretly like to push. Buttons are simply soft spots that have been pushed one too many times, and they symbolize some pain that needs to be acknowledged and healed. This soft spot might be a childhood wound or some recent trauma that you need to process adequately.

In any case, when your buttons get pushed, the person, who most needs your attention and caring is yourself. Blaming the button pusher only distracts you from finding a true resolution to your suffering.

If someone pushes your buttons you need to set a boundary. Repeated button pushing could be because the person finds pleasure or satisfaction in hurting you. When you process the root cause, the reason for the soft spot, you will no longer have a reaction. Therefore, the button pusher gets no pleasure or satisfaction, because you are no longer reacting with hurt feelings.

In the end, knowing where your buttons are enables you to do the work necessary to heal them, therefore, they can no longer be pushed and therefore you are in control of your experience. Freedom comes when you deal with the pain behind the button, thus, dissolving your automatic reaction when someone looks to get a reaction from you.

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